Stop making excuses

So I felt like this was something I needed to write because my boyfriend caught me cheating on my diet last night and what did I automatically do? .. Got defensive and started making excuses… We’re all human, we all do it to some extent the real thing is to understand why and to see what it will do in the long run, and to realize how important your goals are to you.

” The first step in achieving your goal, is to take a moment to respect your goal. Know what it means to you to achieve it.” Dwayne Johnson (The Rock)

 

 

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So everyone has done/said it. Evan I used to think some of these things and still try to justify something when I know I’m only sabotaging myself haha… … and made excuses for why I was doing what I was doing only to regret it later on … why??? . Its only human I think and its natural too, but with that being said, were going to actually stop and think of WHY we do this to ourselves and actually realize that what we’re telling ourselves are truly only one thing…. an excuse.

So here are some main ones I’ve heard and even said too …

  • I don’t have time : O my GOSH! Who does anymore? I said the same thing for many of years…. finally, my Jr year of college, 18 credits full time, working 2 jobs going from 4 am to 9 pm every day pretty much …. found the time. The key is to “find” the time, if you want it, you’ll find the time, just like you found the time to watch that favorite TV show. You have to learn to carve out time for the important things to you, start with those and then continue to do the less important things… like a to do list. Put it in your planner like its a conference for work or on your calendar so its there to remind you that it IS an priority …. you don’t have to workout for hours on end either, nor do you have  to go to  a gym. You can workout at home, take your kids to the park and workout while they play or even play with them. Say they ride their bike to the park, ride yours too, or jog by their side, you have to find ways to squeeze it in and pretty soon it will be one of the most important things you make time for! =)

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  • Its a special occasion! ……. yes it is! Maybe you’re at a wedding or a baby shower and everyone is celebrating and there is all this “not so healthy food” staring at you in the face. (Been there!) So think about it, just because its your birthday or someone else’s, doesn’t mean to over-do it… yea sure go ahead and have a piece of cake but keep in mind how you’re going to feel in the end if you do overdo it, and pig out all day with the excuse of “its a special occasion” … are you going to feel guilty the next day? Are you going to feel sick because your body isn’t used to foods like that anymore? Is it going to be harder for you tomorrow to get motivated to get your booty in the gym? Just take a step back and ask yourself what you want, what your goals are and if your going to let your food addiction take over and continue to make excuses for you….

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  • I don’t have motivation or I cant seem to get going:  yea it can be a little hard finding that one thing to get your butt kicked into gear, there are days when I don’t want to get out of bed and go to the gym, not even gonna lie, but then I realize what I’ve promised myself, what I’ve worked so hard for and how far I’ve come and I refuse to let the negative thoughts in mind take over and tell me otherwise. Plus I know deep down I will feel better if I just go do it instead of doing what again? Oh yeah making excuses not to go.

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  • Your young, I’m older it will be harder for me… you know what I have to say about that BLAH BLAH BLAH.. quit your bullshit. If you actually did some research, you’d come to find out that exercise is actually really good for older people (you should see how many grandpas and grandmas I have at my gym!!) How is it good you may ask? Well to start off, it helps with things like flexibility and muscle loss, along with preventing things like osteoporosis, arthritis, diabetes and soo much more. Plus the people I usually hear this from are like 40 years old… your not 90.. but if you were, I’d tell you the same damn thing. Yeah sure your metabolism slows as you age yes, but that doesn’t mean give up or don’t even try.

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  • If I deprive myself of this __”enter favorite food here”____ I’ll just eat more, or binge on it later. ….. ok so let me get this right…. you’re already planning on failing? Or are you just saying that so you can have your favorite fast food meal? This one hits home for me because I personally said this to myself ALL the time. When you actually read that sentence over again you start to realize how silly that sounds, your making a choice to eat whatever it is you want, its not like its a sacrifice, its not going to kill you to give up that Cold Stone or Taco Bell… your making it sound like its going to be the end of the world if you don’t get some junk food in your system. lol. Sure, hae a small treat, but no you don’t need one everyday, nor every week..

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  • I don’t want to go alone : Understandable, but who said you had to? See if your spouse will go with you, or even a friend who may be in the same boat… or even find that friend who DOES go to the gym all the time and see if you can go with them, they will probably be flattered and show you some great workouts to do to start out with. The buddy system is always nice because it keeps you going, it pushes you to go when you don’t want to. I know when I was going with a friend when I first started it helped because there were so many days when I didn’t want to go, but knowing in the back of my mind knowing she was going to be waiting for me there .. I didn’t want to A. let her down or bail on her… and B. knowing she had the same general goal, and she was doing it.. that means I could do it to …damnit!

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  • I’m too fat – ummm did you just hear the words that came out of your mouth? FIRST and foremost YOUARE NOT FAT- YOU HAVE FAT… you also have hair, are you hair? You also have eyelashes, and fingernails, and toes… are you any of those things? Nope! Your a real person with real feelings and a soul, you have insecurities, and accomplishments, and everything in between. So… first things first, stop calling yourself “fat” because you’re not making it any better by calling yourself names are you? Are you accomplishing anything by that? Honestly… … Next, just like the whole age excuse, having extra baggage isn’t an excuse to give up either. Sure it will be harder, but if it was easy everyone would be doing it. Start slow (depending how overweight you are).. things like walking (even if its to the end of the block and back) is going to better than doing nothing. Once you stop the self loathing, pity parties and possibly some self hate (sad to say)… decide to dig deep and realize where your at today, and how you’ve gotten to where you’re at. That’s when you’re going to either realize its time for a change or your going to just continue to be in the same rut you’ve been in for the past however many years. You have to make the decision and you have to change… you have to find that inner strength.

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  • I don’t know what I’m doing, or I feel like I look stupid : …..there comes a time where you just have to say screw everyone else lol… you have every right to be working out as the next person. Sure they may be skinnier, or fitter, or hell they may even be bigger than you. . . . EVERYONE has a right to make themselves a better version of themselves. I personally know the feeling of being intimidated by the gym, when I first started out I had a free week pass at 24 hour…and I hated it.. I hated the looks I got because I felt like the “fat” girl at the gym,  I hated all the mirrors everywhere staring at me reminding me of what I had let myself become. But in all honesty, I realize now that all those feelings I was having were more of my insecurities with myself. I seriously doubt that the fit girl running her little ass off cared if I was there, much less that I couldn’t keep up with her. Now! With that being said, I’m actually one of the fitter people at my gym now (amazing feeling when your realize that!!!) When I go to the gym, I see all kinds of people, and I have friends there too… I have a few younger girls that have just started off, and a couple old dudes with their knee high socks lol, but the point is, everyone is different, and everyone has different goals. You have to get it out of your mind that everything is a competition at the gym. I don’t care if the girl next to me is running slower or even faster, she’s at a different level and she has different goals. Same thing with the buff dude lifting weights… I will lift what I can lift and if it doesn’t measure up to your 50lbs dumbbells … well like I said before… screw you…. I’m here for me not you. < that’s the mindset you need.

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  • I had a busy/ crappy/ amazing day, I deserve a treat! : sure a treat once in a while is ok, but don’t let it always get the best of you. And you don’t always have to reward yourself with food either. Get a cute new outfit, or go get a pedicure… there are plenty of other ways to reward yourself than food. Think of what it took to get here, don’t sabotage it with a gigantic ice cream cone… Along with that, if you had a crappy day, its just going to be filled with guilt after you eat what your craving anyways… Done let your goal slip away because of frustration or anger.

 

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How to Stop Overeating!

angel Oh yeah, that little angel and devil that sits on your shoulder when a brownie is staring at you in the face! “Eat it!” says the devil…. “No! your watching your weight!” says the angel… then your having temptations, guilty thought of devouring the entire pan and …well .. it can lead to disaster! So we have gotten really good at labeling foods good or bad… and then guilt usually follows the bad and sometimes joy follows the good but sometimes when we deprive ourselves of a treat all the time and don’t indulge every once in a while it can almost put you on a set back for weight loss too. (No, I’m not saying eat the whole pan of brownies. But sure, have one if you haven’t had sweets in like 2 weeks. But then step away from the brownies afterwards haha) Also we as humans are hardwired to eat for emotional reasons too. Bet ya didn’t know that! It has to do with the love from a mother when she breastfeeds you when your an infant, we associate food with love and comfort. So try to break free of those habits, I know its going to be a challenge at first but its do-able, also we like to talk ourselves out of certain foods too… and we try to justify what were eating. (I still do it from time to time.. not so much anymore, it was more when I was trying to give up dairy products…. damn cheese!) ***Here are some tips on how not to over eat or to take control of your overeating: And believe me we all have heard the excuses …

” Avocados and Almonds are “good fats” so therefor I can eat all I want”………

Wrong! Yes, they are very high in the good fats with their nutrients and awesome benefits. But if you have too many or consume way more than the daily amount you might as well just had the fricken brownie!!! There are 9 calories of every gram of fat and 30% of your daily calories should come from fats ( preferably the good kind) So yes your want your good fats (Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated ) but lets not fill the plate with them k. Usually about 5% per small meal (if you were eating 6 small meals) or 10% per meal if your eating 3 meals.

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“Popcorn is good for you! Eat it all the time”

Nope! Just because it says low fat or low carb doesn’t mean its a free food to just eat all you want. When companies remove fat to make then “low-fat” they often replace that with sugar.. and its usually fake sugar to boot… so just be careful when you start snacking. Its ok to have like a cup full but don’t inhale the entire bag.

Eating for happiness –

I mean, yes eating should make you happy, but the kinds of food that you think are making you happy are most likely only hurting you. don’t get me wrong I can enjoy a treat here and there but most people want desert every night after dinner. Or my trouble is I crave sugar at night like around 9pm… so instead of going after that sorbet like I usually would I eat a spoonful of almond butter, or snack on some fruit, yeah its still kinda high in sugar and probably not the best for right before bed, but it satisfies the craving and isn’t a blizzard from DQ.

“I have PMS and I’m going to kill someone if I don’t get my sugar and salt!!!”
HA! been there! The hormone serotonin regulates your weight and mood and is actually slowed down during this time of the month. Complex carbs and protein will inhibit the production. So snacks like oatmeal, maybe a little chicken, rice or pasta might be your best bet.

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Glued to the tube-  Don’t watch TV, sit on the computer, play on your phone or ipad…. JUST DONT. you wont realize how much your eating (this is still a habit of mine! ) If you do do this, make sure you only have the proper serving size in front of you and not the whole box! When you actually sit down at the table and enjoy your snack or craving, it will hit satisfaction a lot quicker where as if your watching TV or something its almost mindless eating because your not focused on the food your focused on the TV.

Don’t have 2nds-  If it was a good meal, sit and enjoy it. And if it was a good meal, it should have all the nutrients your body needs and is craving so you shouldn’t be even hungry for 2nds. Your meals should consist of protein, veggies and a healthy fat, possibly a starch here and there. I’ve herd of some people just skipping dinner and going straight to desert to “save calories” and … haha I just cant believe people think that’s “saving calories” . . . Yea sure your apple pie is 400 calories (just a estimate) and dinner is around 600.. but which do you think will be more satisfying to your body and health? (not satisfying to your tastes buds, I said health) Start to think about where your calories come from, what you actually putting into your body and be aware of the damages you can cause. No I’m not saying I don’t enjoy pie (actually I’m honestly not that big if a fan hah) but think of your body as a car. You wouldn’t put regular gas into a diesel truck, it wont run right, and it will most likely break down (I think…. idk I’m not a mechanic but I’m sure it wont be good ok!) That’s how your body is, if you give it the right nutrients it needs, you wont have cravings and you wont want to eat all the bad things… actually the more you change your diet to a clean eating kind of diet the less you’ll even want the crap foods. The other day someone put on their Facebook that it was 7/11 free Slurpee day and I got to thinking .. “gosh! when was the last time I had a Slurpee?? That doesn’t even sound good to me!” I honestly think it would be WAY too sweet for me now. . . and it probably would make my body ” run like crap” same as the car analogy. wow sorry kinda went of on a rant with that one…

” I ate healthy all week so I’m going to pig out over the weekend”

What?! Seriously?! You just did so well, your on the right track and now your basically going to counteract all the hard work you put into living a healthier lifestyle… I get going out and having fun, but don’t do it every weekend. Think of how depressed your going to make yourself if you did all that hard work and come time to step on the scale on Monday and your weight goes up all because of your fling with food and partying over the weekend. So with the math involved a pound of fat is 3500 calories so unless you plan ok working you ass off after your “party extravaganza” Id just focus on healthy eating around 98% of the time and indulge in maybe one drink here and there, don’t go all out and have the 3 beers with a palate of nachos and a huge hangover breakfast in the morning, you’ll regret it, trust me I know from experience. party Find supportive people- Negative people suck, that’s all I have to say. Now sometimes its not that their negative either, but maybe just not as well knowledged, or maybe they just don’t care about their health (believe it or not there are those people out there), or maybe they don’t know any better because that’s how they were raised. But I’ve seen it and I’ve heard it. “who orders a salad when they go out to eat” or maybe you want to take some healthy snacks like carrots and hummus on a road trip instead of chips and soda… So people don’t mind, some people look at it as weird. Find those people that will be proud of you for eating a healthy snack or even excited that you’re willing to share. The more healthy choices I make around my friends though, it seems to sometimes wear off on them, and that makes me happy 🙂 So far I’ve introduced things like almond butter to my boyfriend and even gotten his best friend to try some tofu, small changes… but I still love it!

Eat Often, Smaller meals – Having smaller meals more often will not only help you stay satisfied longer and fuller but it will also boost your metabolism! YAY! … Instead of 3 large meals, split it up into 6 smaller meals or even 4 or 5 meals. Find what works for you! Base your meals around every 4 hours. If you also munch on things that are full of fiber you’ll stay fuller longer as well. So pack some dried fruit, unsalted nuts or even a granola bar in your purse, glove compartment in your car, or even your desk at work. break “But I don’t eat breakfast.” Well guess what! You do now! If you want to lose weight you need to! Breakfast is like your boost for the day, would you rather have a boost or feel drained. The whole point of breakfast is to “break” your “fast” .. Break-fast from sleeping. You’ve just went (hopefully) around 8 hours without any food so your breaking your fast from the night … make sure you make the breakfast count. Think smoothie, fruit, oats, protein, ..brain food!!! None of this Denny’s grand slam with greasy bacon and 4 white flour pancakes covered in sugar laden strawberry syrup and enough whipped cream for 3 people…. (for some reason American is used to having dessert for breakfast).. But make sure you eat breakfast and make it count people.